The Great Get Out: How To Build the Live You Want

Some stories are meant to be told. Others feel like they’ve been waiting in the dark, handed from generation to generation, until someone finally has the courage to speak them out loud.

The Great Get Out: How To Build the Life You Want

JL Orr has done just that.

The Great Get Out isn’t a book about recovery from trauma—it’s a raw and deeply personal account of what it takes to leave the life you were handed and build the one you were meant for. Childhood wounds. Spiritual manipulation. Patterns of codependency that masquerade as loyalty. JL walks readers through it all with striking candor and a voice anchored in truth.

This is not theory. JL spent years in the trenches—first living it, then helping others through it. As a speaker and domestic violence advocate, she’s seen what keeps people stuck. And she’s done the hard work to get out.

Each chapter names a different form of harm and walks through how she escaped it—not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. From boundary-setting to self-forgiveness to the radical act of receiving love without apology, this memoir doesn’t offer easy answers. It offers something better: clarity, companionship, and Christ-centered direction.

If you’ve ever wondered whether healing is worth the effort—or whether the version of you that exists on the other side of the pain is worth fighting for—this book will meet you where you are.

The Great Get Out is for the ones who’ve kept going when they had every reason not to. For women trying to undo years of emotional training. For anyone ready to stop explaining their hurt and start walking toward something holy.

Releasing October 10. Available in paperback and hardcover everywhere books are sold.

Obol House is proud to stand behind this one. We believe in stories that tell the truth—and this one tells it all.